What Does A Cup of Coffee and a First Date have in common?

We get so excited knowing we’re going out on a date with someone for the first time; referred to as a first Date. Left wondering what we should wear to impress, the one we’re meeting.
Should you wear heels or flats? Among much more!

The adrenalin takes us over the top as we shop for something new to impress something old; not knowing if the coffee is cold brewed,  hot or not.

A Coffee Date:
The aroma of coffee, many times don’t match up to the mouth-watering taste we can create from its smell.  We try to imagine its savor while being drawn in closer by the fragrance.   Now, you’re close enough to sample it, as you slowly attempt to position your lips on the rim of the coffee cup the steam from the heat overcomes you. So, you back away from the heat, and blow to cool it down. The coffee is now at the right temperature. You take your first sip, and you’re disappointed that your taste pallet wasn’t satisfied.

That’s Fair and Dandy: 
Fair, you were attracted from the scent brewing, and you had never thought about how you liked your coffee with or without sugar, cream, or black along with many other flavor choices.

Now, you’re Disappointed:
Your face has drawn downward with a mouth full of hot coffee that’s too hot to swallow. The heat from the coffee still lingers, and you find it difficult to speak. You decide to text someone, to pick you up and politely tell your date an emergency has aroused you need to leave. Frantically in a hurry and all puffed up you say to your date: “I’ll call you” and never do.

Before the Date
You were caffeinated and now leaving decaffeinated.
Have you ever experienced this? Or were you an experience of this (Left behind) where they said they would call and never have?
Share one of your odd dates where you wanted to leave. How did you manage? I would love to hear your story. Post it below.

A Perfect Lesson for a First Date:
First, remember it’s a date an event at a given place and time. First, you don’t know them, and they don’t know you. When meeting someone for the first time, people have a tendency to talk too much, and when the date is over, they leave without knowing anything about the other person. First, we knew nothing about the individual, and when we leave, we still don’t know anything about the individual. We only learned more about ourselves; not knowing how we like our coffee iced or hot?

A logic way to keep an event, which is a date alive, is to look at it as drinking a cup of coffee. For example, if you’ve never had a cup of coffee and you love the way it smells. Often smelling it on the job or venues you’ve attended. The fragrance often will prompt you with a desire to try it for the first time and then you finally go and grab a cup only killing the curiosity about the taste. Or, you’re an avid coffee drinker who’s now having their second or third cup.

Look at a cup of coffee like a first date with Keeping a few things in mind.

Whole Beans: You may need to put in a coffee grinder. You may have to tear this person down and rebuild him/her by showing them a different way of doing things. They could very well be someone on the healthy side of living and physically fit. They enjoy exercising, going to the outdoor events, and very conscientious about how they look and takes baths in cologne or perfume. On your first date if you smell them first before you see or hear them. He/she is a whole bean that needs a little grinding.

Ground Coffee: This person could have very well been through the hammer with a failed relationship. During their conversation, they may regularly talk about their past relationship. Prepare yourself to be called the other person’s name. They’ll compare you to the other person consistently. This person will require a lot of your attention. They’ll constantly want you to prove to them that you love them. You never can do enough or be sufficient for this person because there’s nothing else there. The fine grains are everywhere, and sometimes it’s hard to clean them up. Once they’ve already been through the grinder, they get under things you can’t even reach. This person may need therapy and if you’re a therapist go for it. You must be very compassionate, patient and understanding he/she may go off any given time or place w with you ending up to be the scapegoat.

Roasted Bean: Have had many challenges in life, gone through the fire and came out like pure gold. Have been married before and wants a second chance or even third. Both parents were involved in their upbringing. This person is on a spiritual journey very bold with the will power to change the world. You can build with a person of this caliber, but there are so many different kinds, and It all depends on how the bean was harvested, dry or wet. The root supports the whole coffee bean and background. In other words, how were the beans cultivated from the ground or genetically modified, Organic and nurtured with care? Italian, French, Colombian, or Jamaican. The beans are roasted carefully with intense heat to get the right flavor of bold or even Smokey. Very strog….

Instant Coffee: A person who has been brewed and tired. They’ll settle for anyone that’ll give them attention. Been everywhere experienced everything somebody in a relationship could’ve experienced. Once you add the heat, they’ll be at your beckoned call. This person is afraid to speak out against things they disagree about, has the feeling of not being worthy of love and will extend themselves in any form or fashion. In other words, they’re brewed and freeze dried with a lower self-esteem. You’ll simply need to add hot water, sip, and sip and watch as they dance to your music.

Things to Remember:
All coffee start off growing from a flowering bush and then the seed from the fruit is taking out and dried. The bean is green and carefully roasted by a master roaster who observe not to over roast knowing it can cause the beans to burst into fire. The longer the bean roast, the more intense the flavor, color and characteristic of the bean. It must go through the heat to get the right flavor.
If knowing how we prefer our cup of coffee, we may then go on a date percolating the perfect cup of coffee by adding a few ingredients to get the acquired taste. Remember man came from the ground (coffee). You’ll need to determine what are the elements required to get the taste you want to have a perfect cup of coffee, looking at yourself as being the espresso bean where boiling water is poured. You’ve heard it many times if you can’t stand the heat. Stay out the kitchen.

Ask Yourself:
Are you the espresso to be added to the right cup of coffee?
Espresso grounds are dark, tiny and concentrated. Only need a small amount as a result of its pressurized brewing process. By having nearly boiling water or steamed milk poured over its beans. It’s thicker in consistency compared to regular brewed coffee.

Do I want my Coffee Black?
Will you need to add cream or sugar if so, raw, cane or a modified sweetener?

Knowing these things first will save you from a pole-date. Don’t get caught up in the smell and remember it’s not Starbucks. It’s the stars, not the bucks that get the rewards. Don’t be the shining star without knowing what you want, which can open pathways for someone to Buck you!

Remember:
A bean is a seed. Dried, roasted and ground, which you can plant and grow into a coffee tree if not processed.
The water pulls the flavor from the grounds, leaving the nasty tasting flavors behind. Be sure you’re able to extract the things you need to make you whole, by using a filtering process to grow a flowering life or deal with the heat from processing relationships that can leave you all grind up.

When you know what you want, you can leave out the bitter and go for the sweet!

A Divorce Started with Butterflies

How does one totally walk away by divorcing the person that gave them butterflies? A feeling never felt before; one that had you question if it was love?  You were happy with all the flutters that led into the relationship that ended in a divorce.

The butterflies that gave you love signals flew away leaving you feeling empty inside.

How do you fill the void?

1. Without doubting, you must see yourself as a gift.
2. Look in the mirror and recognize you are the gift.
3. Ask yourself who’s deserving of your present as a gift or time?

It’s imperative to see you as a Gift of love. You must love yourself deeply no matter what flaws you may think you have. Altering your thinking from the way the world has pitted man and woman against one another to once loving and then hating after a breakup.

Now that the butterflies have flown away would you say it was love or a feeling of excitement that gave you butterflies?

Like a kid with a jar in hand to catch butterflies our eyes open in amazement when we see a beautiful butterfly as it quietly flaps its wings and lands on a flower.

What is it about the beauty of a butterfly?

I’d like to say it’s the changes it goes through to reach its full potential of beauty? From crawling on the ground as a caterpillar then shedding its skin several times.  Digesting itself and totally Evolving into an entirely new species. They’re many stages that must take place before the caterpillar metamorphoses into a butterfly.

Feel the butterflies by embracing the beauty within you by letting go and let God Evolve you into a new creature.