The Kiss that sealed the Deal. You belong to me!

The Kiss or The Promise?
The Kiss or The Promise?

In the beginning was the words I love you, and I don’t want to live without you.   Will you marry me?  You happily said yes!  You planned the wedding, and before you could bat your eyes, you were standing there all teary eyed saying your vows to one another.  Shortly afterward you heard the words “now I pronounce you man and wife, you may kiss the bride.”  The kiss that sealed the deal and said you belong to me.

It’s nothing wrong with the kiss; the problem comes from the one giving the kiss more than the one reciprocating it.  If the mindset of the man believes you belong to him, there will be problems of expectation in your marriage.  These problems were there all along while dating. However, love is blind.  You only see how you want to feel, therefore overlooking the truth of your deeper feelings.  This feeling comes from a  message that pops up in your head, to alert you of what’s going on, it’s ignored hoping he or she will change or better yet, you’ll be capable of changing him or her.

Two to Five Years later

Years have gone by and to this union a child was born.  You’re preparing dinner, your husband is relaxing, and the baby cries.  Your husband shouts for you to get the baby and you shout back, “you do it, I’m cooking”  then you here, that’s’ not my job, it’s yours.  He continues by saying, he’s the one that’s bringing home the bacon.  Now you have the baby on your hips while you continue to prepare dinner, and he sits while you’re multi-tasking.


Many couples forget about it’s not the grand wedding when you’re still paying for a ceremony that has already ended with a divorce.   It’s not the kiss.  It wasn’t your first nor would it be the last.  It’s the lasting words that came from your mouth, supposedly from the heart.  Till death do us part.  Many couples create their vows just to be different, forgetting about them when the pressure builds in the marriage and walks away.   Many have said, action speaks louder than words.  When it comes to your vows, the words dictate the actions of both parties to come, therefore looking forward to the promise of every word that came from your mouth.  Your words are the bond that sealed the deal, not the kiss.  Now, how many liars do you know?

It’s the promise, not the ceremony.

Ephesians 3:16-19  (ERV) 

I ask the Father with his great glory to give you the power to be strong in your spirits. He will give you that strength through his Spirit.   I pray that Christ will live in your hearts because of your faith. I pray that your life will be strong in love and be built on love.  And I pray that you and all God’s holy people will have the power to understand the greatness of Christ’s love—how wide, how long, how high, and how deep that love is.   Christ’s love is greater than anyone can ever know, but I pray that you will be able to know that love. Then you can be filled with everything God has for you.

It’s Not About The Date or Time; It’s The Present!

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The Power Of Right Now

It’s not about the date or time; It’s the PRESENT! It’s the Power Of Right Now! When your mindsets on the day and hour, well, then you believe there will always be a tomorrow. Take a look around you; they’re people that surround you today, that will not be around tomorrow. If they’ve consistently thought of ways to change their lifestyle and kept putting them off until tomorrow, they’ve just blown their chances to use, The Power of Right Now!

Put yourself in their shoes, and answer these simple questions:
What if there’s no tomorrow?

Would all your worries go away? No, that little weasel will appear, popping up from nowhere.

I just had a flashback, to the book of Matthew 13: 24 -29

When Jesus was telling the parable of the sower that sowed good seeds and while everyone was sleeping the enemy came along and planted weeds. When the wheat sprouted and formed heads, the weeds also appeared.

What instruction do you think were given to the worker sowing good seeds? Not to pluck the weeds, to let them grow and then pluck, bundle and burn them.  Read more here: Matthew 13: 29-30

Whenever you begin to think out of the box

The seeds planted are about what your heart desires to do.  If you’re holding on to second thoughts about doing them, they’re  the weeds. It’s okay to have these thoughts come along. As you’re moving towards doing what your heart has already planted, you’ll be able to stand back and remove the weeds, gather your thoughts by removing what doesn’t belong and nurture what does.

When we focus on the date and time, we restrict ourselves from planting,

Although there’s a time for everything under the sun and that time doesn’t have anything to do with the date or your watch, It’s the present; it’s truly all you have. Use your Power Of Right Now and overcome the weeds those second thoughts, negative surrounding, and hang out more with people like me!

Take Aways

How many ways do you look at something? Like the hourglass, so are the days of our lives.  The above-written words can apply to relationships as well.  If you’re hoping on a promise that’s not there, those are weeds (fear) hindering you from moving forward.  When we commit our lives to a relationship that appears to be growing without good seeds planted, our tomorrow doesn’t exist; it’s dying!

We remain in a mindset of not knowing what, until he or she walks out leaving us sinking in quicksand.  It’s real simple, don’t wait on him or her to make the promise.

Think about how long you’ve waited and why wait?

Do you feel as though your relationship is growing or dying?

If you’re in a relationship and want to leave, that’s your heart planting the seed for you to grow towards (purpose) growing bigger balls (courage)  to putting on your big girl panties and ease on down the road.

Any moment he/she can say

I love you; I’m not in love with you, and I don’t understand why?

He’s a Pole-Date.  That’s why!

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