In the beginning was the words I love you, and I don’t want to live without you. Will you marry me? You happily said yes! You planned the wedding, and before you could bat your eyes, you were standing there all teary eyed saying your vows to one another. Shortly afterward you heard the words “now I pronounce you man and wife, you may kiss the bride.” The kiss that sealed the deal and said you belong to me.
It’s nothing wrong with the kiss; the problem comes from the one giving the kiss more than the one reciprocating it. If the mindset of the man believes you belong to him, there will be problems of expectation in your marriage. These problems were there all along while dating. However, love is blind. You only see how you want to feel, therefore overlooking the truth of your deeper feelings. This feeling comes from a message that pops up in your head, to alert you of what’s going on, it’s ignored hoping he or she will change or better yet, you’ll be capable of changing him or her.
Two to Five Years later
Years have gone by and to this union a child was born. You’re preparing dinner, your husband is relaxing, and the baby cries. Your husband shouts for you to get the baby and you shout back, “you do it, I’m cooking” then you here, that’s’ not my job, it’s yours. He continues by saying, he’s the one that’s bringing home the bacon. Now you have the baby on your hips while you continue to prepare dinner, and he sits while you’re multi-tasking.
Many couples forget about it’s not the grand wedding when you’re still paying for a ceremony that has already ended with a divorce. It’s not the kiss. It wasn’t your first nor would it be the last. It’s the lasting words that came from your mouth, supposedly from the heart. Till death do us part. Many couples create their vows just to be different, forgetting about them when the pressure builds in the marriage and walks away. Many have said, action speaks louder than words. When it comes to your vows, the words dictate the actions of both parties to come, therefore looking forward to the promise of every word that came from your mouth. Your words are the bond that sealed the deal, not the kiss. Now, how many liars do you know?
It’s the promise, not the ceremony.
Ephesians 3:16-19 (ERV)
I ask the Father with his great glory to give you the power to be strong in your spirits. He will give you that strength through his Spirit. I pray that Christ will live in your hearts because of your faith. I pray that your life will be strong in love and be built on love. And I pray that you and all God’s holy people will have the power to understand the greatness of Christ’s love—how wide, how long, how high, and how deep that love is. Christ’s love is greater than anyone can ever know, but I pray that you will be able to know that love. Then you can be filled with everything God has for you.